Bernd's Home-coming Thoughts (3)-fin

My life has become even more problematic of late. So I figured that I shall not continue my home-coming thoughts any further lest more problems surface. Instead, I decided to do a noble deed here and help solve some problems of other people who are in a similar situation as me, hoping that my singular effort can at least lessen the world's problems. (A little nosey but still noble.) Maybe, just maybe, I could also search for solutions to my own problems when I attempt to address these problems. Following are letters sifted from sources and are those most relevant to my final home-coming thoughts. Any similarities are purely coincidental... here goes.
Letter 1:
Hi, I am an average guy in his mid-twenties. I have a problem that has been bugging me ever since leaving adolescence. Everytime I am attracted to a girl, it seems that she will always be attached and this has happened quite a number of instances. What should I do? -unlucky guy

Ah, this is an easy one to start with. I can say I'm the perfect person to answer this question. No longer something foreign to me, I came to a simple conclusion. Continue waiting, or turn gay. The best decision is just to remain alone and get along with life. There are things you have to accept in life and move on. Its simply a sign from God, like it or not. I'm still bitter about it...

Letter 2:
I am a girl in her early twenties and studying at a tertiary institution locally. Recently, due to certain sequence of happenings, many problems have surfaced in my life and I am having trouble coping but there is one which has proven to be most tricky. It was not too long ago that I got to met a wonderful guy, R through one of my girlfriends at a social event and we hit it off like old friends. I felt we had a special connection through the way we shared about our experiences. Some time later, I came to know that he is actually attached. Well, that being truth, I learnt to accept albeit I felt deeply disappointed. For the sake of not causing hurt, I had to maintain the status quo... I'm really at a loss here. What should I do? -distressed gal

That was a long letter and a very complicated matter from my point of view. I would not wish this on my worst enemy. Well, first of all, I would say that there's pretty nothing much you can do about it. (Not very helpful but its true.) Though our feelings are often out of our control, you have to take the bulk of the problem. You're threading on thin ice, trying to balance both sides of the equation. Having watched a variety show, Guess 5 a few days back, where a girl actually befriended the guy when he was still attached, maintaining the healthy friendship for a period of time till he broke up with his then-partner and they got together and even appeared on the show as a couple! You could learn from this 'case study', just wait for the situation to change for the 'better' and try to manoeuvre your way through this tricky situation. Hopefully, it ends in a peaceful manner but remember, loving someone doesn't mean being with him/her but just to see him/her happy would be enough.

Letter 3:
I'm writing this letter in need of some advice. Recently, there's this girl whom I know for a long time and she has actually confessed her love for me. But I only like her as a friend and furthermore, my heart already belongs to another girl whom I really really like. I'm at a loss. What should I do? -confused guy

It is people like you who I don't like (call it jealousy or being envious). Go away and come back next time with a real problem (like What do you think about government intervention regarding inequality in society?). You do not appreciate your blessings. Shoo.


Well, I finished this entry while enjoying a piping hot serving of Mcdonald's Hotcakes in campus, my 'happy' food. Prolonged period of brooding over my problems had caused my body resistance to deteoriate and I'm on the threshold of falling ill (of course hopefully I won't). This problem should at least be put on hold now, regardless of me having a solution or not. I feel I really have to move on and leave these to the hands of fate. Thanks to these letters that I found, addressing the problems of others has let me see my own in a different perspective and for the sake of us and for the love of God, may there never be such problems ever again. Nein.